When my detachment level is strong enough, I think I’ll stop wearing my wedding band and place it with her’s which she stopped wearing months ago...somewhere safe. It can be a little indicator to her that, if she is watching, will signal that I am no longer hers.
This would not be detachment. Doing something to get a reaction out of your W is the opposite of detachment.
You are correct above that detachment is not the same as being completely withdrawn. Have a PMA. Just be careful about making a 180 to be more emotionally open or vulnerable right now... that would be ill-advised.
Steve85 has a great analogy for this about broken-down cars and oil changes. I don't want to mangle it. Perhaps he can share it or you may run across it other threads.
