I'll take the question for my situation, TwoFeet. The first guy I dated after my 24 year marriage ended I had serious infatuation feelings for. However he was a Love Avoidant who kept me at a little distance so it didn't develop into full. blown "in love" giddiness. After a year he reunited with his lost childhood love. No hard feelings and we are still good friends.
I've had serious dating relationships since, including a four year relationship and my current relationship. They did not start off with giddy infatuation. I think I may be a little too analytical and jaded; I know that even if it looks really good at first, you have to get to know someone before you can really tell if it's going to work.
Now sexual attraction is a different thing, most of the men I have dated I found sexually attractive from the beginning.
