My wife received the S agreement proposal today. She texted me after she received it with some questions and she seemed pretty ok with everything...not necessarily what was in it as we didn't really discuss it but she just seemed ok with this part of the process.
Any thoughts on this?
My thought is you should completely ignore her reaction.
You could have said "She texted me after saying she was going to elope with another woman" or "She texted me after saying she wanted to come over and jump into my arms and fix everything" and I would tell you the same thing. Ignore it.
People have reconciled 20 years after D. During these situations, we all hit major milestones from time to time. Bomb drop. Legal filing. Evidence of EA/PA. My opinion is that these are all gut punches, and also they should ideally have zero impact to what you are doing. This has to feel like a big step, I know.
Originally Posted by jac12
I'm going to detach hard and not let her affect my emotional state. The goal is that in a few months or so from now I'll either be ready to move on by myself or maybe she decides she wants to try and work things out. Hopefully I didn't do too much damage over the past few weeks but I need to protect myself and my son.
Minor quibble - take the timeline out of it. Just keep working on yourself. I am guilty of setting timelines in my head and generally it just adds to frustration. I suggest you focus on yourself, thinking in your head that at some future point in time you may be ready to move on.
