Yes, exactly. The last time he mentioned wanting us to be friends, after a year of major cake eating on his part (and allowing said cake eating on my part) I told him directly that I can’t offer him my friendship outside of our marriage. BUT one of his main complaints about me is that I wasn’t his friend when he was still in the marriage. All that said, I’m trying to figure out how I can show that I’m capable of being a good friend to him, without giving too much of myself or allowing more cake eating, and while still keeping my conversation fairly scarce. I almost feel that those desired outcomes are in conflict with one another; I feel like to 180 the “not being his friend” id have to be more friendly then perhaps the rule would ask of a typical LBS? I so appreciate your response! Thank you!
