You are exactly right. Thanks for the insight. I know my old relationship is over. I have to make a plan to somehow move on and one way is to get myself totally involved with my coaching. It will keep me busy until late in the evening. I’m finding it hard to detach right now because I feel like I’m neglecting my son if I’m not home when he gets there. Why does she get angry if I try to detach myself right now?
Because she feels a loss of control over you. As you detach, and you stop reacting emotionally to her crap, it will show her that YOU are in control of YOU. Not her. Most WAS think that after BD they are total control of the MR and LBS. Some of them react badly if and when the LBS starts to show that they are in control of themselves, and even have control in whether the MR stays or goes. I know in my own sitch, when my W saw that I had started to embrace the possibility of us splitting up, she started having second thoughts almost immediately. You never know how they'll react, sometimes they react with anger.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
