The most important thing I think for me is not to stand still in my life
MY XH crises is his and he chose his path.. I was patient, cordial and more than understanding to him while he was still in this area.
I would still be cordial and kind to this day if he called and needed something that was reasonably within my ability to help-- BUT my life is for me to live...he is gone..I chose a long time ago to let go and move on and Im so glad i did
I dont think anything I did or have done since his crises affected him for the worse nor has helped him either
Im not sure any of it matters,,its more up to them to seek help from a professional help to deal with their unresolved childhood issues..This is the part I think they run from (not us) and no matter what we do it cant make them better
Hope that helps
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
