Thanks LH, read that post a few days ago but had nothing else to report. I will use those lines. As much as I’d love to say I know about your A and saw who you were with”, I will not. Reading other threads it seems pointless and will not do any good.
So update: I filed on Tuesday. Saw my lawyer who went over the paperwork and approved it for me. I know W can’t afford a lawyer so I will be representing myself. The lawyer advised me to put terminate support on the form so I won’t have to pay support and if W wants to respond she can and we will go from there. Side note: I am not denying support out of malice but my W lives with her mom who is a total enabler (MIL bought a brand new car a month ago and W convinced her that she should have it, so now MIL is driving Ws old car while W drives new car.). So I know MIL who makes great money will be providing financially for my S so I know he will not be wanting a thing.
W was very lazy when it came to similar things (separation agreement was written up at midnight the night before W moved out lol). So I wonder if she will even respond within the 30 days for my state. Otherwise I specified a 50:50 custody of 2-2-3 schedule.
My buddy who owns a process service company was super awesome and is serving for free, priority serve. Yesterday server attempted twice but no one came to the door. Not sure if he was successful today but I will know tomorrow.
W dropped of S today and made some small talk. I was pretty short but pleasant. She said “it was funny seeing you out at the club the other night” and there were many things I wanted to say angrily I simply said, “yeah I had a fun time.” W tried lingering and talking but I politely shooed her out the door. Before hand I told her what time I will be dropping of S in a few days so there will be no need for further communication.
I have a lot of anger about this situation and my normal reaction would be to call her on her BS and call her a liar. But from my time on this site I’ve learned that nothing positive could really come from that. I was polite and friendly in my interaction but very brief. I have been NC for a bit now but I still have this feeling she thinks I am a firm plan B. She does a lot of touchy teasing flirting when I see her. So my filing will be a shock to her I believe.
I know this post has had a lot to do with her but I’m going to try and document the time before and after she is served.
Shout out to LH for the great advice over the past few months, helped me to really cut out the BS of dealing with my soon to be ex WW.
