Opinions please

[DnJ]

Hello Eden

An interesting question.

I believe our standing or not, has no, or very little affect on the MLCer’s crisis duration, path, or outcome.

A crisis is the emotional torment from long ago pains and traumas that as young people they could not cope with and hid deep within themselves. When these unrelenting painful feelings bubble to the surface they have no idea why. After so very long enduring such distress they finally explode and bomb everyone and everything around them, including themselves.

Their crisis has nothing to do with us. I’ve seen my XW change personalities in mid sentence, a different age of herself. She is most of the time a young teenager around 18, push her and she revert to around 14, and there has even been a seven year old girl inside her I’ve talked too. I’ve only seen W, the 47 year old woman twice since BD. Both times was exceedingly short and ended with something from within visibly twisting and pulling her back down into the depths. That may have been the spookiest thing I’ve ever witnessed.

Their crisis is reliving their unknown torment over and over. That is why they run, to escape. There is no reasoned idea of what they thrown away or lost. They are emotionally driven and absolutely need to run. It is a crisis.

The completion of this crisis, is beyond our control. It is probably beyond their control, and that is a sobering realization of the magnitude of this. They need to grow and realize whatever it is they are emotionally lacking. Realize that it is not their fault. See that authority person from their childhood for who they are and what they did. A tall order for someone so troubled.

I believe there has to be a catalyst to help the MLCer along their path, and that is not us. It’s some bit of fate that pushes the MLCer just the right way and in just the right direction.

In speaking generally I really do not think we can do much to steer their journey while they’re running. If / when they have an awakening perhaps then our behaviours may come into play. They will still exit their crisis regardless, but they’ll remember how we treated them.

Just my two cents.

DnJ