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[Ready2Change]

She came home and UNLOADED on me about her job for 3 HOURS. I listened and validated my face off. I’m getting very good at validating. Like really good. Some pretty crazy stuff went down at her job. She was EXTREMELY upset about it. She was about to cry at one point. At another she was almost yelling. I was just her safe place to come to. Somebody on here told me to be that for her

If I was single and I didn't want to hold my boundaries about sleeping with married woman, I could easily get married woman to sleep with me by doing exactly what you did.

All of you reading this, not just OZ, have to understand how important this is. If you are not doing this, some other guy will. And he will have alternative motives.



So OZ, Sometimes it will be three hours. Sometimes 15 minutes. Sometimes, you have to limit it. Other times you have to listen for as long as she needs to talk. Sometimes, you have to hear the same story multiple times.


Sit there and BE HAPPY. Truly feel the pleasure of happiness. Be happy because she is being intimate with you and not some other guy. This is how you build a different kind of intimacy that a woman needs from her man.




It is also important to be able to listen to her vent about YOU. Listen, understand, decide to make changes if they are positive.