It is not just about having talks with W outside MC but about you not thinking about it also. As long as expecting W to work towards R in MC is a goal, detaching will be difficult.
MLCxH - Thank you. You (and the others responding) are right.
I am too focused on the direction my W is taking, and letting it stir up frustration and anger. "Just make up your mind!" has wormed its way into my brain.
I have a question though: The advice is "only go to MC if you are working on the MR". What is the reason for this advice?
A) To protect the LBS from the same mistakes we always make (i.e., a firm line in the sand we should never cross, because we don't have the emotional resiliency to handle what is likely to happen if we do cross the line).
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B) Even if the LBS is fully detached, there is no value in going
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C) other
I get hung up on "working on the MR" because it feels like an exercise in mind-reading.
