Thanks AS and Steve. Don’t let me fool you lol. I’m still struggling. It’s just now I kinda get it. I get that I have two choices. Stay in the muck. Where she put me. Or go get a freaking life. Be awesome. Maybe she likes me after that. Maybe she doesn’t. That’s up to her. But I’m not going to be available forever. I’m not anyone’s pet.
What I do get hung up on is is how much I’m available for her to come to as a safe place. A solid place. Someone on here told me to be her safe space. To know she can come to me and that will build trust and respect. But I’m not a doormat either. I could use some help finding the balance
If she comes to you, that is the key. DO NOT GO TO HER. Let her come to you. Listen and validate.
As far as availability, well that should be limited by your GAL activities. Don't sit around the house WAITING for her to come to you. Trust me, if she wants to come to you for a safe place, she will find the opportunity.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
