AS pointed out a couple of replies back that I'm not detached 100%. Doing things for her would just make that harder. So that's also a reason why I responded the way I did.

Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.