(((Adios))) It’s been less than a year for me and my H has bought a house with OW and they are planning a wedding next July. If it hadn’t happened to me, I almost wouldn’t believe it. I did nothing wrong but love and support him. Were there small things I could have done differently when I felt him slipping away? Yes...but I’m not sure it would have made a difference. My H was conflict-avoidant to the extreme. By the time I knew what was going on, he had already left me in his mind. He knows he treated me like sh!t... he has a lot of guilt and shame... it doesn’t matter. He wants what he wants - to hell with anyone else.
The bottom line is that your H is going to do what he wants to do and there is nothing you can do or say to stop it. Telling him you love him may result in him feeling bad for a period of time but it won’t change what he is doing. Two years of long distance, as was already said, is easy. For it to fizzle, they would probably need to live together. If I were you, I would not count on that to happen or wait around. Even if it did fizzle, it wouldn’t necessarily result in him returning to you...he could just as easily move on to OW2.
Drop the rope. Let yourself heal. Move forward and stop focusing on what he is doing. And for heaven’s sake, get your cell phone back. He’s a grown man. He can get his own cell phone. Why should you be paying for his contact with OW? He might be upset about it but he will also respect you for it. (((HUGS)))
