AS - I do understand what you're saying and I feel like I've been doing that but I also have to look after my son and make sure we are doing ok financially. If I didn't need her to contribute I'd be ok giving her more space but I've been handling everything on my own for 6 months and I'm near the end of my rope.
Do what you must to protect yourself. If you need to file a formal S or D agreement to get the support you need then do it. But don't have an R talk with her first because she is DONE (for now) and there's no point. Just proceed with the legal side of it and be done with it.
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I'll read Steve's sitch again.
If you've read it then you don't have to go back, my point is just that Steve's wife said all the same stuff as yours and now he's reconciled. She spewed script with the best of them. But she still changed her mind later. MANY of them DO change their mind. Will yours? We can't tell you with certainty, and we can't tell you when it will happen if it does. But like many LBS's, you seem to take everything she says as permanent. "Well she said XYZ so it really is over, there's no chance". I hear it around here so much, but the fact is you do not know the future. I've seen marriages come back from situations that seemed virtually impossible, much farther off the deep end than yours.
