SteveS - Great summary post, I need to bookmark this.
One thing I am trying out this weekend is joining a men's group. It is not a NMMNG group specifically, but basically one with very similar goals that our MC (of all people) privately recommended to me.
NMMNG recovery is a lot of work and I imagine will take months if not years. The small steps of progress I see in myself (such as saying "no" without fear of conflict erupting) are invigorating.
Great idea. I noticed that in my MR, I tended to spend less time with my friends as the years went on, which in turn put an increasing amount of pressure on WAW to provide emotional support. That eventually became a very large burden.
There's a NMMNG meetup here in NYC that I'm planning on attending, and I'm even considering attending some 12-step groups as well. I don't view myself as an addict, but one of the lessons of NMMNG is to practice verbalizing and opening up about your faults and the things that you hide.
