Ok this may sting a little bit but you don’t seem to get it. Throw out all the bs you see on tv and movies what you think a woman wants and what they really want are two completely different things. You became the woman in the relationship and she became the man. You doing all the house work. Not attractive. You allowing her to talk down to her. Not attractive. You not being the leader of the family. Not attractive.
Respect equals attraction. Say it 50 times in your head.
Thank you for the 2 x 4. At first I was definitely the man in the relationship. But when I did things for myself she started to say things like I was selfish. I didn’t care about anyone but myself, so I gave up my sports and didnt go to the gym till 8:30. I am definitely going to get my man card. That validation stuff is great but I feel it’s making me weak. LH keep it coming please I am learning a lot. Man was I blind.
Thank you everyone else for chiming in too. I really appreciate the advice.
Man she tried to really set me up today and trying to control me but I am done with that. My IC said yesterday my w is acting like a spoiled teenage brat and to treat her like one. If she throws a tantrum will I give in to it? Nope!!! I will Not let her words bother me, control me or manipulate me anymore. She really tried today. I have to run but I need to share what she did today. Not falling for this $hit anymore. Her words have no more power over me.
AS you are so right, no more material things. Just me and that’s it.
Originally Posted by TBSakaJ9
To add to what L said......did you ever tell her "no"? Put her in her place? Stand up to her? At some point in time she stopped viewing you as "the man". That dove tails into the bed room as well. I won't go into details but most women want to be handled a certain way in that regard as well. They want to be submissive to their man and please him. It's not about being submissive to her and pleasing her.
I use to stand up to her all the time. I just got tired of fighting and started to back down. That was a mistake. I know that now.
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
