As long as you are in MC, it will be difficult to drop the rope and detach. Not saying you need to stop MC if it is benefiting you in other ways. But you need to expect to have emotional ups and downs. Try to keep any R talks in MC confined to MC and not think about them at other times. Drop expectations of any progress on R as a goal for MC. As long as R is a goal in MC you cannot really detach
MLCxH - We definitely have no R talks outside of MC. We sometimes don't have R talks inside MC.
I think MC is actually helping me detach. Just not sure it is healthy for me or my relationship with my kids.
