Why come to a forum where we preach DBing techniques that work...then buck every single one of them?
GAL. Detach. 180s. It is simple formula. Chasing, pressure and pursuit will land you in divorce court way faster than DBing.
I don’t think I’m bucking them, but I have questions about application. That’s the point in posting the details. I recognize that chasing, pressure, and pursuit will only backfire...that is emotional hurdle #1 which I’ve partially cleared. Emotional detachment is part of the solution to that...choosing not to react to her emotional infidelity despite the pain it causes. The 180s I’ve pulled have really gotten her attention...and also made her mad by challenging her picture of who I am.
GAL is tough because I already had one...I never lost my individuality in marriage. But I do have some areas to grow in this area, but I must balance it with my kids.
Me: 36 W:38 M13 S10 D8 ILYBNILY: Feb 2019(?) Sep in House: Mar 2019 EA1 started 2017, discovered 6/19
