I actually did "out" the inappropriate relationship, which at the time made things worse, but seems to have ended the emotional affair. After discovery and her promises it was over, I caught her and her boss out at a restaurant during lunch, when she had told me she had to "work through lunch". He's a doctor at a medical practice, so immediately backtracked, called the office to let them know I wasn't welcome there anymore, etc. But since then, he's gone radio-silent on her. They still work directly together, but it truly seems it's over.
She's not staying with the OM, as far as I know. She's been staying with her brother (who I have a really close relationship with), and he has even stated he can't believe everything she's done.
Maybe I'm in denial, but I am really trying to believe she's ended it. However, I definitely feel like she's keeping me as option #2. I'm trying to build up my self-confidence, and find new friend groups.
I am definitely serious about recovery and hopefully eventually reconciliation, so will read through all links provided
