Wow, wow, wow. You are living a lie. Your entire sitch is a lie on both sides. Your wife is lying to you and you are holding on to information like it's going to doom to world if it gets loose.
What do you think is going to happen at Rville? If you are trying to recon and your W don't know where she is starting from in your eyes then she can't be sincere. She just agreed to something, not fully knowing what she might be walking into. And when ya'll get there and all the hard questions are asked, what will be your answers. Will ya'll continue to lie, if so, then Rville won't work.
Ya'll are starting from a point of deception on both ends. You have let go of a card that should of stayed in your pocket until you did the work, but you got impatient, and is more worried about a D, then gaining respect and building a M and R off of a solid foundation.
IMO, until the truth is free and flowing between the two of you, you won't be able to become intimate to build a foundation of real love and respect. Ya'll can't be honest with each other, but want to move forward in building a M on what?
It's time for you to become the man that demands respect and is not waiting on respect. Tell your W the truth before you go there, because if you don't, when you get there and she finds out you know in front of a stranger, it won't be pretty and that will be dam near impossible to come back from.
Joejoe
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
