I am not sure if I did the right thing, but after the child support conversation went south, I blocked H on my phone and at the work messenger.
It feels really nice, before I would be waiting for a response from him. Always trying to keep him informed of the kids, sending pictures/audio clips... Sometimes he wouldn't even acknowledge them. The times he would reach out were only if he was heading my way for business. When it was close to then he was really dialed in to his family...
Now I email him if i need something for the kids. Today I sent him an email requesting a form for the B&A care and instead of writing back, he called me. I sounded really nice on the phone and thanked him for following up. He seemed surprised.
I hope I'm doing this right, but it seemed like a good boundary!
