Quick question, tomorrow is our 15 year anniversary. Say nothing and do nothing, correct? It saddens me that I know tomorrow will mean nothing to her. I always tried to go above and beyond on our anniversary. Planning trips, massages, expensive dinners.
Maybe you weren't speaking to her in her love language though. I always tried to find special gifts for my XW for bdays, Xmas and anniversaries. Why? Because that's what I thought she wanted, because it was MY love language so I just assumed it was everyone else's too. But her love language is words of affirmation which I wholly neglected throughout our M. My XW's bday is coming up and I was talking to my D's and asked them what she told them she wanted. A rack to hang tools in her garage and a new garden hose. Gifts are just not her love language, she doesn't care about gifts at all. Your W may very well be the same. So when you say "but I went above and beyond and did this that and the other" it just makes me think you didn't know her or what she wanted. You did what you THOUGHT she wanted. And those are great things, but my point is if you neglected her REAL love language then all the gifts in the world won't make up for it.
