This is why we say "no R talks". Most LBHs can't handle getting their grapes crushed like this. R talks get you no where and only set you back further.
To other LBSs, use jac's experience as a valuable lesson.
Steve, I think this outcome was coming right from the very start. She has had no intention of trying to work things out in our marriage. She's a ghost of her former self. She said she wants me in her life, just not romantically.
I'm actually doing better than I thought I would. I've probably been expecting this and I'm not attracted to the person she is now.
Also, I couldn't let this continue the way it's been going as she's been neglecting her responsibilities to her son. Saturday's are supposed to be her days and 2 Saturdays ago she chose to go to Toronto with her friends instead of spending it with her son. She isn't paying any financial support and I've had to change my job so I could look after our son while she goes through her mess. I'm at a point where that can't continue and she would have dragged it on so she can spend her money however she wants.
Maybe she would have come around, or still may, but she's not doing any personal growth work on her end or trying to see how she contributed to anything. She'd rather take her issues onto the next relationship.
I'll still let her handle the actual D filing as that isn't what I want (however, I'm getting closer to that myself). I'm not ready to be in another relationship at this point but it looks like seeing other people is now on the table.
How can I have any respect for someone who left their child? I really believed there were some mental issues going on but she's not addressing them and really doesn't believe that to be the case. It's just how she feels. Are you suggesting those feelings can actually change?
How do I move forward now as far as our interactions go?
H 37 W 31 S 2
T: 7 M: 4
BD 12/18 Separated 2/19 Living back together 04/06/2019 W Moved out again 07/15/2019
