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Sandi since you have been down this road, were you like that? What do I say or do when I will always be wrong. And I feel she just gets more resentful with everything I do. Like I have other motives.


My sitch was a little different, b/c my kids were grown and we did not physically separate. I had a lot of resentment toward my H, but I did not act like your wife. Women know, just like kids know, how far to push.

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Your acts are not genuine you want something in return. That’s selfish. Dating right now while your married is selfish. Abandoning your kids because you couldn’t deal with your W is selfish. Expecting her to stay in an unhappy marriage is selfish.
I’m sorry for being harsh but you just don’t get it. There are no short cuts. You have to do the work. Stat by reading NMMNG!


I am a bit confused with your comments. When I try and do things for her I am being too nice and a doormat basically. But when I do things for myself then I am being selfish. So which is it? My IC suggested I not stay in the home because it was not a good environment for my kids. Looking back I wish I did stay. And say forget her. You know there were many things I did In This relationship that was not selfish: cleaning the house, taking kids to activities, food shopping, taking care of all the bills, taking care of the dogs, picking up second job, cooking half the to


I can only imagine how you feel as if you can't do anything right with your W........or us. Please get NMMNG and read it cover to cover, and I think it help you understand a lot better what the board is saying. You don't have to spend time reading NMMNG reviews, b/c we rate it highly and have been encouraging you to get it. smile It won't take long to read it.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!