Midlife wife crisis9

[Wolfman]

W,
I’m going to try one more time and until you read the book you will not understand. When you do things for people expecting something in return that’s being selfish.

Yes doing things for people who treat you like $hit is being a doormat. Not sure why you can’t understand it.

12-9 are old enough to get themselves ready.

I am looking to buy the book. Reading reviews and I need this book.

Let me give you all an example of how my w is and I stood up to her. The days I have the kids are Monday, Wednesday and Friday. (This is for now until I get my own place). So Sunday she asked me if we could switch Friday and Saturday. That she made plans with the kids in the morning and it’s her parent’s anniversary. I said I’m sorry I can’t I already made plans with me and the kids. She says this:
So when you ask me to switch it’s fine but when I ask... no? See how it’s always on your terms? You can literally come and go as you please... yet on the nights I don’t have the kids I either have to come home early or get a sitter? And now you can’t answer my call?

I told her I am sorry but Friday is my day and I already made plans. My buddy ( I said his name)from South Carolina was coming up and we made plans 2 weeks ago and that is the only day I would be able to see him and his family. This friend of mine is also my son’s godfather. I said, I can’t answer the phone right now I am busy.
So in spite she told my kids that she was not going to have them Friday and they were not going to see their friends either that they will be with me all day. So of course my d is upset with that. But I was able to get my d to understand and she wasn’t happy with it but ok with it. But I know my d once we hang out with my friends (they have 3 kids) she will be fine. Just trying to show mom how much she loves being with her.