Maybe I know what to do 6

[SteveLW]

Going to the dentist could be considered a 180 if it something that you have been avoiding for a long time.

Yes, this stuff is sad. And being sad is fine! We've often said there is no problem with being sad and even showing emotions......just not around her. Many LBS here (your truly included) had many moments of falling to pieces....privately.

And it goes both for the positive and negative. I remember the evening my wife came to me and started talking about how she wasn't sure she was doing the right thing, and that she knew D was wrong and God hates D, and that she wanted to want to stay married to me. Etc..... This was after a couple of weeks of getting pretty good at DBing.

I fell apart in the shower the next morning thinking about it. Happy tears. Tears of joy. But when she was saying these things to me I was detach. I was stoic. I didn't react. I even said to her at one point, "You have to do what makes you happy. No matter what." That front you put up to her is so important. Whether she is talking about Ding or Ring. You need to be even through it all.

And then fall to pieces later when you are alone.