W, Who gives a flying fuch if she gets resentful towards you. Stop trying to please her. I’ve asked you several times if you read NMMNG. You never respond. That book is DB 101 especially written for you. Everything you do is for her love and approval and when she doesn’t give it to you then you double down harder. She treats you like $hit and then you try even harder. Then you come to the board and state that you can’t believe she’s doing this after all you do for her. Rinse recycle repeat. Your acts are not genuine you want something in return. That’s selfish. Dating right now while your married is selfish. Abandoning your kids because you couldn’t deal with your W is selfish. Expecting her to stay in an unhappy marriage is selfish. I’m sorry for being harsh but you just don’t get it. There are no short cuts. You have to do the work. Stat by reading NMMNG!
I am a bit confused with your comments. When I try and do things for her I am being too nice and a doormat basically. But when I do things for myself then I am being selfish. So which is it? My IC suggested I not stay in the home because it was not a good environment for my kids. Looking back I wish I did stay. And say forget her. You know there were many things I did In This relationship that was not selfish: cleaning the house, taking kids to activities, food shopping, taking care of all the bills, taking care of the dogs, picking up second job, cooking half the to E, taking care of the pool, when her or the kids hinted that they wanted something I would surprise them for either a birthday gift or Christmas gift. So me GAL is dating I don’t see what’s wrong with it? At this point we are only married on paper. Also, I don’t want her back into an unhappy marriage. I want her back in a new and improved marriage where everyone is happy. If wanting a new marriage where everyone is happy then I am selfish there too.
Originally Posted by LH19
How old are your kids that they need someone to get them ready?
It’s an on going battle. We don’t actually help them get dressed but have to remind them over and over again about getting married. My w and I have different opinions on discipline. She is more laxed and never sticks to the punishment. If it was my way I would say it once and after that there would be consequences, when we were married she said I was being too harsh and now look. My d is 12 and s is 9.
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
