Mindy, a lot of people confuse detachment with being cold/ indifferent or even rude. You do not want to be cold and indifferent, the idea is you just want to seem busy with your life. So when he texts or calls, sometimes reply/ answer right away, sometimes wait a while, and sometimes (if it's not important) don't reply. You don't want him to think "she is ignoring me" because that will just look mean and vindictive to him. You want him to think "wow she's busy, what is she busy doing? I thought she'd be my Plan B forever, but she seems to be establishing her own life without me and that scares me more than I thought it would." You understand the difference? Read Sandi's rules and follow them, they are all about LOVINGLY detaching.
