My blindside was spectacular - not a clue and it was because he encountered the OW and he allowed her in.
I am a master at ‘getting a life’, and so busy with job, side business, church, concerts. travel, hosting dinners, I didn’t have to try to do this - I am naturally this busy.
I am master at the 180 - never initiate contact, never talk about the elephant in the room, ie,,marriage, OW, etc. As far as he knows I am completely over him and done. He has no idea how much I hurt - I never show it.
Where has all this got me after 2 years? He is further away than ever. He was more present and clingy when my pain was obvious. Now,,his relationship with OW is deeper than ever. She wants him to get divorced so that is now what he wants too - so she feels secure (so he tells me). He is deeper into this relationship than I ever thought possible and the deeper it gets, the further away from me he gets too.
So I can’t help question the advice given to us LBS. it hasn’t changed a thing, only made it worse and my H more distant than ever before.
Then I compare that to Westo’s story and see that her H is home after 2 1/2 years and he showed interest in coming home well before then. My H after 26 months is further away than ever. Then I wonder if this is even an MLC I’m dealing with. If it’s not, then why does he check all the boxes?
