It hurts bad when your WS absolutely sh*ts on your vows and has no remorse. My EXWW did the same thing. Once I confirmed her PA she tried to lie her way out of it and eventually just didnt care that I knew.
Honestly that helped me drop the rope. It gave me a new perspective. Why would I want to sit in limbo waiting for someone that not only hurt me badly on purpose with emotional abuse, but also had a PA and had zero remorse about it.
I moved on. Now im moved out, D is final and I have an amazing GF that treats me like a king. I can actually thank my EXWW for showing me that I can do much better and giving me the time to better myself and find a much better woman.
It does Sotorn. When she finally admitted about sleeping with OM and all the other things holding each other, kissing, cuddling, etc - she had zero emotions on her face, no remorse what so ever. She even tried to blame her actions on me. She is crazy. I am definitely not waiting for her to come back but it's hard to just drop the feelings I have for her. I really hope me telling her I never want to see her again, dont come by the house, dont talk to me actually gets her to not contact me - I am disgusted by her behavior. Even though it hurts, not having her around would be much better.
I am so glad everything worked out for the best SoTorn. I am genuinely happy that for you. You are right, i can do much better than try to work on a relationship with a person that is having a PA and not sorry one bit. That is the cut off line for me.
