If a person is having a breakdown in mid life due to unresolved past trauma, it has little to do with the spouse
yes we may have been human, and not been perfect in the M, but as you have stated he did less than his share in the M in many ways
Knowing this, lets us off the hook
When we notice, our MLCer getting worse in time after they left and have gotten the dream they went after, that also makes it clear that we are dealing with a person who is not fully stable
no one can make another person healthy, it is an individual choice
I like your plan to detach and use the year to become the best year..therapy helps us heal divorce busting gives us great new skills
alanon is a fabulous program as well with many phone meetings to listen and learn to cope with the unacceptable
Hang in there you are doing well this is a long healing process for the LBS with many twists and turns
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
