I agree with job. Most of us have been in your shoes. I went through this thing recently and did an early reconciliation. It was catastrophic. The children and I relived the horror of breakup twice. Everyone wants their situation to be different; I did too. Truth is, until you see months-years of consistent behaviors and clarity, this is nowhere close to an end. You may see brief moments of niceness and clarity, but they are only self-serving for her. My W did something similar to yours--pausing during any legal proceeding. A few weeks later I was in court because her attorney hadn't been paid and I was sued for her Atty fees. You must stop letting your mind wander and head your own direction--without her. Its hard to hear, but you will keep hurting yourself if you don't.
