My W also wants family dinners in our schedule (originally she said weekly, now less often)... I wonder if it’s a way to feel safe by observing directly how you interact with the kids. I don’t get it either. We had one so far and they are awkward...
I don’t know what her motivation is; she brought it up and I’m adult enough to know this is more time I get to see the kids and it is most definitely not time to work on any of the issues with W. It can be fun and not awkward as long as that mindset is kept in my head.
This was very out of the blue, but also very much thought out. She didn’t hint around it or try to get me to figure out what she wanted, just came out and said it. “I would like to start having dinner as a family” we’re the words spoken. Not I think it’s best for the kids, or perhaps sometime we could maybe do something if I feel like it, or any other wishy-washy stuff. I’m taking it at face value. If you read long ago in my sitch I said one of my goals was to have a family meal again. This is the opportunity to meet that goal.
Probably won’t happen for a month or so because I’ve got a 10 day fishing trip planned and a few other things. My weeknights are fairly full and so I’ve got to make time for this without dropping everyone and everything else because that is the wrong answer.
Also breaking news...I scored VIP tickets to the blue angels today in Seattle like 30 mins ago...and it’s W weekend with the kids...she is letting me take S11!! I’m so happy right now, almost have tears because spending the day just me and him doesn’t ever get to happen.
Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
