I would suggest you stop have any contact with your W that is unnecessary. Pick up the kids and be gone. Also, it may be time to push along the D so you can get your own place.
She started the refinance process so I can buy my own place. It looks like September is when it should be done. I need my own place I don’t want to talk to her or be around her anymore. She is nothing but negativity and misery!! I am done with her. It hurts a lot though to be with someone for almost 20 years and watch her flush it down the toilet. I miss having someone that cares for me the way I care for them. I know it will come in time but for now it still stings. And it’s not so much her it’s just missing that bond with someone.
I was at a bbq today and just watching a lot of the couples interact bothers me/ hurts. Like I said I just miss that interaction.
LH how could I have set up a boundary? I sometimes feel so lost when to validate and to basically walk away.. thanks
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
