This R that he is in will not be anything but long distance for a few more years at the very least. He can’t relocate where she is and earn any money. She won’t relocate here because she doesn’t want to. Why should she? He is out there all the time anyway. The relationship will never fizzle.
I didn’t think I was standing. I don’t want to stand. But I don’t want to let him go either. Someone said somewhere that until we are healed, we don’t know if we are truly standing.
I know the details of calls - he uses my cell phone. It hurts to look but nothing changes if I don’t look and then I have no idea where I stand with him. The calls tell me it’s time to forget him and move on. Tells me the r with her is stronger than it ever has been,,if anything more intense with each passing month. I can also see he called a family lawyer last week. At least I won’t be blindsided (again) when this gains speed. I almost want to file myself. Then it’s my decision and not his, or hers. They already got to decide my marriage was over. Why let them decide when Im to be divorced too?
