I want to thank everyone for their help. Keep it coming
I read the detachment thread and I didn't really get much out of it. I just don't have a good grasp of what it truly is and what I'm supposed to do. It was very unlike the validation which I understood very well and have put it to good use.
I have backed way off, using validation as much as I remember too, try hard not to control him or nitpick and I've been a little aloof too. I know it's only been a few days, but I've noticed his behavior has changed at times. He's become more playful and affectionate for one thing. It's a start .
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