I hope for the sake of others that no one has health problems as a result of their spouse leaving. It's already hard enough!
Thanks for your encouragement. I feel strong in cases like Thursday when my colleagues were flipping out about something that really wasn't very important. I didn't say it but I was thinking, "you guys are luck you think this is stressful! Trying having your husband leave you with a young child!" But mainly what I want is to be strong enough physically because I've felt tired and weak from not being able to eat much. Having no one to help at all amplifies the problem. When you have no choice though you just keep going...
I think what you write always shows good judgment. You were sure that your marriage couldn't be saved and you met someone you liked. What's wrong with that? If the European guy I met visits me and we find there's something worth pursuing then maybe I'll be more open to dating someone myself. Who knows. At the point where your marriage can't be saved, or you know it's not a good idea to want to save it, then you have to make a choice at some point about whether to try to meet someone again. Ultimately I believe all of us would love to find a new partner and not spend the rest of our lives alone.
