HaWho and Yail have given very good advice and reminders. Doormat vs standing. And there are many possibilities, more than four.
That back and forth feeling is a bear. You’ve got all month, you need to let it go. Wrestling with it for 30 days will wear you out.
Talking about one month:
Originally Posted by Grace21
He states he is “making a decision” about getting out of his current apartment by Sept 1. So, change is coming.
Originally Posted by Grace21
In any event, the end of the month will bring clarity. Answers to some questions.
Expectations. Be careful.
H says he is making a decision about getting out of his apartment, not that he will or is getting out. He could decide to stay. He could decide something and not implement it or follow through with it. The MLCer is pretty flaky with following through with things.
Your many conversations have drawn you back in. He can manipulate you. Push your buttons. Even if he doesn’t know he is. However, most MLCer are exceedingly crafty when working to get their way. They can and do manipulate very well and bring the LBS right back into the thick of it. It is really incredible given how Swiss cheese like they are.
Remember H, and MLCers, are driven to this behaviour. They need to do it. He pushed enough that you were contemplating asking him to file, when he moves in with her. Stuff that has let happened yet. (((Grace)))
I totally get it. And it’s a good indication that you are not made of stone and still have a compassionate squishy heart.
Bring the focus back to you, your kids, and your full and good life.
Share your fleeting feelings here and leave H to his path.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
