Hi Manta, what a terrible person your wife is!! It sounds like she and so many of the spouses who left here have no conscience whatsoever. They lie to us and they lie to their affair partners. They live a double life. I guess divorce is a step in the right direction for a marriage that can't be saved but I really, really hope you don't have to see her in person. That's just excessive cruelty if you do. I feel so sad for what you're going through.
Hi Manta, what a terrible person your wife is!! It sounds like she and so many of the spouses who left here have no conscience whatsoever. They lie to us and they lie to their affair partners. They live a double life. I guess divorce is a step in the right direction for a marriage that can't be saved but I really, really hope you don't have to see her in person. That's just excessive cruelty if you do. I feel so sad for what you're going through.
I really don't want to either Nicole. She is a liar, cheater and i don't think she's mentally stable. She might have the AP fooled, but when that baby arrives.....i shudder to think how she will cope and her OTT reactions.
I'll get legal advice Nicole and stand up for myself. I have tried to keep calm and not provoke, she has been rubbing thid affair in my face since she was caught 12 months ago.
Her day will come. One day.
I need all of your support from now on, as this will probably get nasty.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
We're here for you! If there was a way to contact you in real life I'd seriously accompany you to a potential divorce session to support you! That's just too much for anyone to handle on their own. I'm sure her day will come but I feel so sorry for the innocent child that will be born into this mess. Her downfall will be the child's downfall too so there are no winners. I hope you get to start over though with a new partner with whom you can start a real, stable, loving, lifelong family.
I know Nicole. Wish you could be here with me. Thanks everyone. I would love to pm too, as we are all people trying to support each other. I'm going to play this cool, not being a d$%k , but after everything she's put me through, it's no harm now to let her sweat and call her out on her bs. She's not getting everything her own way. I hope this time next year my life will be so much happier and brighter. Her selfish life will be changing once that baby arrives.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
You can do it. It's just extremely difficult, unfair, and traumatizing. The pain is worse than anyone can realize. It's exceptionally hard even when time has passed and you've made so much progress moving on but the divorce papers force you to go through another round of grief when you're already tired from all this. Just like you I know that if / when I receive divorce papers I'll feel the same, like I just can't do it. Why don't you write everything that's going through your mind here and we can listen and respond?
Manta and Destroyd, when I joined first joined this forum many members were writing about how they know each other in real life. I asked how they met and it was through facebook. More recently one member (and I think I realize now who he is!) created a secret facebook group called "The DB Society." If you want to join he may accept you! I had a few good conversations with members there. If you do join, you'll probably be able to figure out who I am so please say hi! :-)
Side note - to the member who created the DB Society group, if you read this, I just checked the group and your profile and wow, your girlfriend / significant other is gorgeous!!! You two look great together! That gives me hope that maybe I'll find someone someday.
You can do it. It's just extremely difficult, unfair, and traumatizing. The pain is worse than anyone can realize. It's exceptionally hard even when time has passed and you've made so much progress moving on but the divorce papers force you to go through another round of grief when you're already tired from all this. Just like you I know that if / when I receive divorce papers I'll feel the same, like I just can't do it. Why don't you write everything that's going through your mind here and we can listen and respond?
Manta and Destroyd, when I joined first joined this forum many members were writing about how they know each other in real life. I asked how they met and it was through facebook. More recently one member (and I think I realize now who he is!) created a secret facebook group called "The DB Society." If you want to join he may accept you! I had a few good conversations with members there. If you do join, you'll probably be able to figure out who I am so please say hi! :-)
Side note - to the member who created the DB Society group, if you read this, I just checked the group and your profile and wow, your girlfriend / significant other is gorgeous!!! You two look great together! That gives me hope that maybe I'll find someone someday.
Manta - I hope you get some sleep!
Thanks NicoleR. I really appreciate your kind words and help in the last year.
Not sure where this group is on FB. I will try and find it.
I'm very tired.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
