You're firmly in the friendzone with her. Emotional support when she needs it, nothing to her when she doesn't need it. It's interesting that you said you feel like you got duped, I think you did too, but not by her. Her actions are very consistent and predictable for a WAS. You were duped by your own feelings and expectations.
AS, very astute observation. You’ve been following my sitch from the beginning and I’ve had so few positives with WW to latch onto, just one kick in the balls after another. Providing her with emotional support and all the text convo really raised my spirits and made feel like we were connecting. I had not talked or communicated with her that much since before she moved out. It gave me a new hope. The LBS when scorned for so long has a tendency to jump at any perceived improvement in the R and say this is it, this is the turning point, the WAS is starting to warm up. Unfortunately it’s still about them and their selfishness, improved behavior must be demonstrated over a long period of time to believe it’s real.
This is the day 2 of her returning to low contact. Tonight she had a good excuse as she went to visit and is staying over with her recently widowed friend. We’ll see what tomorrow brings. W has the kids this weekend and it’s D4 soon to be D5’s birthday. I plan to make that very special for my sweet little girl.
Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16 PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18 PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19 R’ville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20 W home:4/5/20 (due to CV-19), W NC w/OM:4/13/20 6/1/20
