Growing Pains(LB55 thread 4)

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Boy these WW are crazy. She sends me an email earlier today that says she isnt comfortable communicating or being around me because I’m very threatening and she is scared.

When I pick up the kids tonight she comes out and brings me a fruit basket, wants to talk about kids bedroom furniture, and wants to talk for 10-15 minutes tomorrow after work.

She still has ahold of me and it’s frustrating. I haven’t detached nearly enough. Some nights I find her vile and disgusting to even look at. Then others like tonight she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen. So many emotions I have. Just one of those days.

My sister and her H are going through some issues now and she wants to lean on me for support. I’m trying but it’s hard because I’m not done with my own issues. Doing my best to help her but not get involved. They aren’t as serious as most of our issues yet, but I can see it going that way if they don’t learn to communicate better. Her H is a good guy and a good dad. She is a good gal and a good mom. After having been here for a while I can see in her language to me she is frustrated and hurting a bit; he is having a tough time with employment since moving a couple years ago. She supports the household and cooks, cleans, etc...so I’m working to pass my knowledge on before it gets worse for them but not actually get involved. Also difficult.