W "I don't care about your words. I care about your willingness to compromise which I don't see" Me: "I'm sorry that you feel that way. I know that I am compromising on a lot and being deliberate about where I choose to maintain my position" W: "I don't see where you've compromised. And I haven't held my position on a single thing." Me: "We have very different perspectives on this. Just so I make sure I heard you correctly, you feel as if you have compromised on every issue and I have compromised on no issues. Is that right?, I'm clear, are you saying that you don't see a single place I've compromised since beginning mediation?" W: "You aren't home are you?" Me: "No" [END: I was out with a couple of friends for drinks and then dinner]
I'm not sure the blue part jibes with DB, but repeating back what you heard (without inserting any opinion or emotion) is a common listening skill that is another form of validating.
