ANYTHING you do will be "wrong" in her eyes. Don't tell her you love her? You're cold and indifferent. Tell her you love her? You're too clingy. Don't tell her she looks pretty? You're insensitive. Tell her she looks pretty? You're shallow and superficial.
^^^READ THIS. UNDERSTAND THIS^^^ It is why we tell you to pull back, leave her alone, give her time and space and work on YOURSELF. Because anything you try to do for her is going to fail to impress her.
This is what you are up against. This is also the most difficult concept LBS's struggle to understand, because it makes no sense in the context of a previously happy marriage.
AS - Thank you for spelling out so clearly a lesson it took me a long while to learn. I hope R2C adds this to his quotes.
