Persistent Endurance (Part 5)

[curtis7]

We warned you. And your mind reading isn't going to help.

NO you do not gently guide her. curtis, you've been here long enough to know the basic principles. "Gently guiding" is pressure and pursuit. And it is control. All things you avoid.

The lighthouse is unmovable. Everyone knows where it is. If they want to go to the lighthouse they do it, but the lighthouse never goes to them.

Steve, right now I feel somewhat duped. My hopes did rise in the past few days and I now I’m cycling back down. I’m going to re-post something from Part 3 of my sitch back in April that you shared with someone else (http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2846409#Post2846409):

“If you had a crystal ball and could see that if her A will end in July....that she would recommit to the marriage in Sept. and in a year from now you guys would be in the same bed, coparenting as spouses, going on weekly dates, what would you choose? Obviously you can't know that, but one of the things I've adopted for people going through this is: earn your way out of your marriage. IE, don't take the easy way out. Make sure you can look back and say to yourself, I did all I could do to try to save this marriage. It may come up later with your kids.”

I do hope the crystal ball is correct for my sitch and the death of her friend’s H ended the A in July and she will recommit in September. I was ready to take action to end the limbo until the recent events. Now, I’m considering extending my timeline again.

I plan to sit back, observe her actions, and take stock for the time being. Wait for her to come to me...patience, patience, patience.