Husband left for the second time - 9

[Jim1234]

NIcole, thanks for stopping by my thread. I'm not sure I would wish what's happening to me on anyone, though. It would be hard enough to give STBX the chance to prove themselves, and one of the things I'm struggling with is how could I ever be sure. And I know you're going to defend him, but after what he said to you and your daughter, I'm not sure I could ever trust him again. Taking an apartment across the street, to me, is just another indication that he doesn't take your feelings into account, and probably never will.

I'm so sorry about your physical condition. It's so hard when the doctor can't point to something and say "that's it!" The uncertainty takes a huge emotional toll. I wouldn't be surprised if you have some PTSD. I hope your new therapist can give you some help with that.

In the past, I've encouraged you to date, but I'm not so sure that was really good advice anymore. I will say that it is curious that my STBXW only came around when she thought/saw I was moving on. I don't know how much the new therapy had to do with it, but Steve has long advocated detaching and moving on, or at least appearing to, and I really think he's right.

please keep us updated.

{{hugs}}