Jack not texting you. Yeah, that would upset me too.
I think Jack has a little difficulty confronting others - like his friend. Your assessment of differences has him with little experience in serious relationship(s). His friend may have pushed for Jack spending time with him not you, and Jack might have to figure out how push back.
There many be lots of different possible reasons as well. At any rate, an open honest discussion of your and his expectations would go along way in letting him know. Guys aren’t all that aware Lol. And he might just need a few more reminders to get it to stick.
Back to that list. Yes quite some differences in there.
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
On the positive side... we have a GREAT time together. He can be really silly and makes me laugh. Sex is great and sometimes I feel like I can’t kiss him enough. I am super comfortable with him and happy when he is around.
IDK... Am I just fooling myself or getting carried away because it feels so good to be with someone who is so into me and who is so affectionate with me? I was emotionally starved in my marriage so am I just responding to him in this way because of that?
Perhaps you are fooling yourself, perhaps you are not. Ah those irrational emotions.
The differences are mostly rational ideas. The positives mostly irrational. Why would you expect different? It’s love. It doesn’t need to make sense.
He is fun to be around and makes you happy. You are comfortable being around him. There is something about him...
Those are the important qualities. In truth, most other stuff can be taught. Being compatible - can’t really teach that.
So are you just responding due to an emotional void from your marriage? Who knows. Does it matter? You are responding. You have feelings. And I think he does too.
For what it’s worth, I believe you to be levelheaded and clear in thought and heart. Have some faith and trust in your feelings and thoughts. I think beliefs, deeper ideas and feelings, are forming and you are just settling into them.
Super comfortable and happy. Everything else is everything else.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
Lol. And he might just need a few more reminders to get it to stick. 