You're right about all of it. I have my children, they're away from their mother's lifestyle, and her leaving quickly was likely a good thing as well. I'm going to stick with your line of pursuing happiness and my highest goals... Seems like a legit plan.
Additionally, this has now given me the opportunity to totally cease contact with her (outside of kid convos). I've never been completely detached from her like this, so I can only imagine it'll be better for both of us.
Me: 48 WW: 43 OM: 53 met 12/16 to 10/19 M: 18 T: 20 D20 S18 S9 BD 05/22/16 W asked for D 6/20/16 D final 1/9/17