Shocked and Lost. Don't know what to do

[ovrrnbw]

"Women get upset when I talk to their husbands. " I replied they shouldn't if it's just friendly conversation and they trust each other.

Barf. People of the opposite sex have a hard time being platonic with each other. Our nature is constantly working below the surface against people who are attracted to one another. That's why we have minds, to control our natural impulses. There is no such thing as "just friends" IMO.

But I digress. I'm sorry you are here, it really [censored]. The good is that your H is still wanting to be with you, sorta. The bad is that he still wants her in some form, and that he is used to you accepting his explanation and then going back and texting her again. Lord only knows if they've met and done more.

I think you'll be on a similar journey to many posters here and it will lead down the paths of healing, self reflection, growth, self respect. It's a process, and the harder your try, the better you will be. I'd be willing to be that you are worth more than the treatment your H has been giving you? As a woman, would you say that you have many good qualities that men would find attractive and appreciate? I ask this b/c I think your path leads you to a choice where ultimately you will have to decide if you have enough self respect to not tolerate his betrayal and disrespect. It's a scary path, b/c it may end up pushing away the H you love. But MWD talks about fear in her book, and how operating from a fearful perspective will not give the desired result. I wish you good luck.