When you do not take the advise we give you to make changes to your behavior, we feel extremely frustrated. If you continue to ignore the stellar advise we are offering and do what you feel like, we will stop posting to your thread and go spend our time helping other posters that do make the required changes.
See how easy it is for me to set my boundary. Start setting your boundaries. Be completely ready to enforce.
Do this with your mother.
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