Yeah I understand that AS. There have been times where W texted me and I took it offensively the way was typed out. Sometimes it came across as a demand from her but then when I discuss it with her later that wasn't her intention. I know a lot of people including myself to come across that way sometime in text just because we're in a hurry to get a message out, and don't reread how we come across other people. Reading social cues when people mean well and want to give positive criticism versus them taking a jab at you is also a lost art in interpreting. I kind of come from a long line of argumentive defensive Misfits, and I always try to be the better example out of all of them. Depends on how defensive of someone is. My younger brother you can't tell him anything even if it's for his own good. I have those Tendencies sometimes as well but I try and hear what the other person trying to tell me before I react on something. Something I've been aware of probably since my adolescence. That and improving on my toneality when I speak with people. I used to have a really big chip on my shoulder and I've adjusted accordingly as I've gotten older, but there is always room for improvement and handling things correctly and then emotionally volatile situation. Divorce is new waters for me, because usually when relationships end you just walk away and that's it. but divorce I'm aware I'm still going to see this person for the rest of my life as long as my son is alive. So I have to be pleasant and civil, as long as I'm not getting disrespected or railroaded in the process, I will do my best to keep it that way.
